I have been searching the web for celibacy and semen retention videos. Many of them talk about the benefits such as confidence, deeper voice, female attraction, improved mood swings, etc.
From one that has gone 5 years + without even a single emission or wet dream – most of these benefits you read about are bullshit. You can’t just stop jerking off and looking at porn and expect to raise your energy and station in life. There’s a right way and wrong way to practice semen retention.
During my 5 years, I have experienced poor confidence, low self-esteem, anxiety, and even depression. In fact, I have been diagnosed with a mental condition. All of these things have happened to me while being celibate. Until I started practicing sexual transmutation the right way.
Benefits & Myths
I have written a short article about the myths in celibacy. It covers what I have done that is against the guidelines given out by yogis and other spiritual figures. You don’t need to become a vegan. You don’t need to give up red meat or spicy food. Tobacco use does not interfere with semen retention, etc. Since I already covered this I won’t go on here. If you have any questions, leave them in the comment area.
Let’s look at some of the benefits people on the internet will claim.
- Social confidence
- Magnetic personality
- Willpower
- Sexually attractive
- Change in perspective towards the opposite sex
- You will start glowing
- Deeper voice
These are all myths and I call bullshit – now don’t get me wrong. These are benefits of walking the path. But not after 30 or 90 days. I suspect these semen retention personalities want more clicks on their video. What you will find is that most of these YouTube celibates are parroting the benefits written down by Indian and Chinese spiritual traditions. But they have not been practicing long enough or correct to actually experience it.
You are not doing it right
It is important right off the bat – semen retention alone will not fix your problems in life. In fact, it will have little to no effect by just retaining. This includes all the videos you see on Youtube. Where they boast of retaining everywhere between 30 to 90 days.
There is a physical component to retaining, there is a point where the body uses semen retention as an energy source. But it is so subtle that you won’t realize it until you have had an emission. And it takes a few more days than 90 to reach this point.
Let’s talk about what real celibacy is not.
If you are using semen retention as a means to become magnetic and land more lays you are not doing it right. It is most likely a placebo effect too.
If you are still jerking off but not to the point of climax you are not doing it right and you are still using sexual energy.
If you are engaging in lustful thoughts and feelings during your day you are not doing it right.
If you look at women on the street to check them out you are not doing it right.
Wet Dreams
Are you celibate if you have wet dreams? Yes, but there is still the possibility of an energy loss during wet dreams. Not as dramatic as if you had a conscious emission. I remember having wet dreams that left me feeling weak and ill for two consecutive days.
The problem with wet dreams is that it reignites the lust and passion for sex. Any orgasm or emission will do that to different degrees. But the celibate man will mistake his wet dream as a defeat because of the ill effects he might feel and fall back to ground zero and start over again.
I am here to tell you that if you continue despite having wet dreams they will in time stop altogether. Nobody starts off with 100% transmutation – there are levels of celibacy and experiencing wet dreams are a part of those levels.
When you begin semen retention you might have a wet dream once every second month, then once every third, every sixth, and so on. Just keep your eye on the ball.
“Lack of spiritual practice is the main cause for all sexual attractions.” – Sivananda
Dark Side Of Semen Retention
“Some people, who observe celibacy for one or two years, become more passionate and waste the energy considerably in the end. Some people become incorrigible, moral wrecks also. “ – Sivananda
There is a dark side to semen retention. Simply put it can make you neurotic, nervous, anxious and at the extreme end, it can make you develop deep mental illness. This happens if you are retaining while still engaging in lustful thoughts and feelings. If you are retaining without transmuting the energy it causes energetic friction in the body. I know this from personal experience.
Also, keep in mind that there are references out there in which celibacy can cause sexual perversions. You don’t have to worry about this if you go about this the right way.
Sexual Transmutation
Once you start transmuting the right way half of the battle is already won. You won’t have to struggle as much with lust, wet dreams, and lack of willpower. I will provide 3 methods in which you can use to transmute the sexual energy.
- Deep breathing
- Meditation
- Pranayama
Pranayama: Now I have little experience with pranayama but google is your friend if you wish to learn. It is sometimes called alternate nostril breathing.
Meditation: Meditation is a solid method of transmuting energies. As you become skilled in both technique and duration you will start to breathe with your diaphragm during your sitting. The catch is that you have to sit for more than your standard 20-minute sessions. If you want to transmute sexual energies I recommend sitting for at least 40 minutes once or twice a day. This is for the real serious seekers.
Deep breathing: This is the best way for beginners. It is easy and doesn’t require as much time as a meditation. I have called it deep breathing for easy reading – but what we are talking about here is Qigong. Sometimes called Chinese yoga. You want to start with the basic form of Qigong. Which is called Zhan Zhuang.
It is a form that they say is great for a beginner and can be practiced for a lifetime. The thing about Qigong is that you have to do it every day. It requires consistency rather than duration. I advise you to start out with 5 minutes of standing and increase by 5 minutes every other week. Work your way up to 30-minute sessions. If you want to learn more about Qigong I have written a separate post on the topic.
You Still Need To Work
Many folks out there on the internet believe celibacy is the endgame of a successful life. It is a foundation that you should strive to keep. But don’t mistake it for the only thing you should be working on. Like in other areas of life such as weightlifting for a better physique. Lifting weights alone won’t do much unless you have a diet, nutrition, and sleep in order too.
“Thoughts of worry and thoughts of fear are fearful forces within us. They poison the very sources of life and destroy the harmony, the running efficiency, the vitality and vigour. While the opposite thoughts of cheerfulness, joy and courage, heal, soothe, instead of irritating, and immensely augment efficiency and multiply the mental powers. Be always cheerful. Smile. Laugh.” – Sivananda
You need to do a transmutation exercise each day. You need to cultivate a positive and joyous state of mind, this means changing your thoughts and emotions. You still need to read biographies, self-development, and success material. Fill your mind with the right input and over time you will change your beliefs and perspectives in life. You will become a part of the few – the elite. There are various studies out there pointing to that we are predominantly negative. That needs to change through conscious effort.
“I’ve seen estimates that somewhere around 60 to 80 percent of our thoughts are negative. And if that weren’t bad enough, most of our thoughts are repetitive. I’ve read as high as 98 percent. That’s a lot of negativity.” – Thebestbrainpossible.com
You will not become an effortless genius like some material on the web point to. You will still feel resistance to doing or committing to dreams and goals. You still have to develop the right habits. You will still encounter obstacles in your work, etc. You get the point.
Celibacy Is Not The Cause
I am going to go about this carefully, there is a lot of spiritual garbage being thrown around on YouTube and the web in general. People claiming they opened their third eye or claiming some of the myths we talked about. Don’t get me wrong I believe we have massive potential as human beings. But developing various traits and abilities requires a lot more work than a 20-minute meditation session a day.
I have experienced phenomena such as out-of-body experiences and even visions while meditating. This has been achieved without being celibate. A yogic master by the name of Sivananda has written books about the spiritual path and say that many abilities are the byproduct of a strong concentration. I find this to be accurate.
We are all different personalities with different lessons to learn in life – celibacy or not. Maybe some of you are navigating the world and social interactions through the head and need to develop your emotional self and your heart.
Some might need to develop individuality and go about your goals and dreams alone. You get the point. There are countless ways for a human to develop over a lifetime and I have witnessed people change as they enter their 30’s. These lessons will be mistaken for an effect of celibacy when in reality it is just the cogwheels of life happening.
What Will Happen
The first thing that will happen to you is an increased sense of energy. Not in any grand way but very subtle often not noticed until you have a fall. Meaning not noticed until you have a conscious emission. And trust me you will fail – a lot of times.
A few of the things that have happened to me is that I am comfortable going about things alone. The usual addictions like validation through social media, dopamine hits from video games have little to no effect on me. I have become an avid reader of biographies and self-development. I have an internal fire to become great and to chase excellence.
I am slowly transforming into a producer instead of your average consumer. There is reading material out there suggesting that celibacy will increase your virtue and will to do good. I find this to be accurate. I often think about humanity and the ways I can contribute to a better society. I have a dream to make a lot of money so that I can at the end of my life give it away to the people who need it the most.
Once you start cultivating your mind too and filling it with positivity and happy thoughts you will start to become magnetic. I am not too sure about the mechanics of it but you will start to radiate positive energy and other human beings will pick up on it. I believe this can be achieved even without celibacy.
“The body follows the mind. If the mind thinks of falling from a height, the body prepares itself immediately and shows external signs. Fear, anxiety, grief, cheerfulness, hilarity, anger, all produce their various impressions on the face. “ – Sivananda
I have experienced bliss from a meditation practice consisting of 40-minute sessions twice a day combined with celibacy. It is a similar feeling to taking ecstasy if you have ever done drugs – which I don’t recommend.
There are not many references on the subject but as you plod along on your path with sexual transmutation your body will start to heal. There is a modern medicine theory that our bodies can hold on latent infections and diseases – once your body has the capacity to deal with these illnesses it will feel like you are becoming ill. These effects last only a few days at most and once over you will feel better than you did before. This concept is known as healing reactions and has been known by Indian and Chinese traditions for many centuries. Our own medical professionals are slowly discovering this function of the body.
Once you start transmuting your energy. Your face will carry a glow and your eyes will become shinier than usual.
Not All Sunshine
“A life of continence (celibacy) is really beset with difficulties.” – Sivananda
You have to take whatever is written here with a grain of salt. Your path will look different than mine and I am not sure if the events and situations described here are a result of celibacy. I am of the belief that you should cultivate positivity no matter what happens in life. Regardless of your sexual habits.
I have experienced many humbling situations in both work and personal life. It has felt like the universe wanted to destroy every ego based thought and emotion in order to build me up as a positive virtuous individual. A lot of people on the web describe celibacy as a fun ride. This is simply not the case. You might have beliefs and perspectives that need correction. If you continue on the path of brahmacharya (celibacy)I believe you will be put through tests and situations in order to grow.
I dont want to go into detail what has happened to me through sexual transmutation because I believe it has to be experienced. Stay positive and continue the path.
“You must mercilessly cut off all formalities in social life and lead a pious life” – Sivananda
I am getting used to doing things alone in life – I also put my efforts into doing something productive each day. Cultivating social relationships feels meaningless. Participating in banter and chatter is completely useless.
I hope this article contributes to the online discussion of celibacy, and enlightens the potential seeker. I hope you decide to become a celibate so that we can over time uplift our society, culture, and knowledge. Thanks for reading.
Until next time – Bogdan